Nobody knows how long we are on earth for; you don’t want to waste your time here stressing about the next day. You should just appreciate the moment and try to cherish it as often as you can.
Realise that time is limited and challenge yourself to live each day to the fullest. What is a way you can live your life to the fullest today?
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But TODAY is a gift, make the best of it & make the most of it.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I like SNL for some valid reasons. One of the best skits from Pete Davidson.)
In this generation it is almost exceptional that we look after each other and stand up for each other. There is competition and power struggles everywhere, but why? We could achieve so much more together if we support, respect and appreciate each other. I don’t compete with anyone, I am myself, I have different goals, norms and values, I am unique, just like you are, and for that we are not competitors but equals.
Jealousy, competition and grudging are therefore hugely misguided, it is impossible to compare yourself to another. The only thing you can do is look at yourself, develop yourself, compete with yourself and become your own ideal image. There is no room for jealousy, grudging and hatred, as this will always negatively affect your self development and self-image.
Focus on your own goals and work on yourself. Respect that you will never be like others and they will never be like you. Don’t change for anyone. Change for yourself. You are your own and only competition.
When I give, it does not come with strings. I’m not keeping track of what you owe me. When I give, I choose to do so without ulterior motives. I give because I’m genuine. I give because I know what it’s like to be without. To long for and be ignored. To speak and not be heard. To care for and have nothing returned. When I give it’s because I get it. It’s because I know the value in what I have in my heart and I refuse to let the world stop me from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted, When you no longer appreciate my sincerity, I won’t switch, I won’t get angry, and I won’t be spiteful. I’ll just get smart and I’ll change your role in my life. Because when I give, I’m all in. But when I’m done, there’s no looking back.
I stopped sending paragraphs. I stopped telling people how to behave. I stopped entertaining retaliation & inconsistency. I stopped telling people how important is communication. I started walking away from all these crap, blocking, and distancing myself. Life is becoming peaceful. Sometimes being yourself & independent in life is better than being surrounded by halfass people.
(This post is not for those who came & vanished in past. It’s for my future person, in case you experience something is odd in me or missing in me, just say it and keep forgiving me till you experience the best of me.)
1. The kindest people aren’t born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced so much at the hands of life, they are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The KINDEST people do not just exist, they choose to soften where circumstance has tried to harden them, they choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why COMPASSION is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why TENDERNESS is so important in this world.
2. Surround yourself with people who are doing the work to HEAL themselves. Surround yourself with those who want to talk to you about IDEAS rather than other human beings. Surround yourself with people who LOVE and RESPECT themselves, people who are GENTLE and KIND and who ENCOURAGE CONNECTION. Surround yourself with people who genuinely show up in your life, people who don’t just want attention, or praise, or validation from you. Surround yourself with those who want to GROW with you. These people will change your life.
3. Being understood fosters a different kind of INTIMACY that is untouchable. The rarest, most profound kind of connection you are going to experience will not be with the person who instantly gratifies you, but rather, with the kind of human being who sees you clearly. Ask yourself who makes you feel the most you? Who sees you in ways you don’t see yourself? Who pours calm and ease into the heart of you? Those people who came to mind are rare and beautiful gifts. Never take them for granted.
4. Do not just be THANKFUL for the things you deem positive in life. Be thankful for the EMOTIONS you also deem negative, because it is within the darkness that we grow to APPRECIATE the light. The hardest things in life are building you, and reminding you of your capacity to overcome. At the end of the day, nothing you have experienced thus far has defeated you. There is POWER in reminding yourself of that. You are capable of braving the storms, that is what they are there to teach you.
5. Please don’t ever forget that so many human beings you come into contact with are all trying to heal themselves from the things they often do not discuss. Always choose to be KIND. Always choose GRACE.
REMAIN TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT IN YOUR WALK OF LIFE, THAT’S SEXY, BEAUTIFUL & BOLD. (Not my words).
Avoid people who mess with your head. Avoid people who intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you. Avoid people who expect you to prioritize them but refuse to prioritize you. Avoid people who can’t and won’t apologize sincerely. Avoid inconsistent approach & disrespect.
It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you. Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t, and be grateful to those who leave you, for they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned, and the awareness to appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line: Be OK with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence.
I like people who have a sense of individuality. I love all humanly expressions, conversations and anything awkward and imperfect, because that’s natural and that’s real. Show yourself, do not pretend otherwise. I think it’s beautiful the way you sparkle when you talk about the things you like or you don’t like. And I like it when people disseminate, when they open up and dare to be completely honest, and when they laugh at the smallest things and then look into eyes. There’s nothing more soothing when you are yourself and show who you are.
I always appreciate this. All I can do is, look around, looking at that happy happening scene in my head again, there is warmth and familiar energy that we do not want to say goodbye to. I am grateful for everything, for those beautiful moments. Beauty is the way you hold yourself. It’s how you treat people. The way you love. It’s self-acceptance. Beauty is in your soul.
BAD NEWS IS: You cannot make people like, love, understand, validate, accept, respect, respond, appreciate you or be nice to you. You can’t control others.
GOOD NEWS IS: Who gives a shit, it doesn’t matter.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Shared it to show my genuine hate towards Instagram & every other app/service Facebook owns.)
The one quality of a truly honest person i adore the most & that distinguishes them from rest random crowd: “They have a calm and consistent speaking voice”. One of the easiest telltale signs of lying is a loud voice. When you catch someone in a lie, they’ll often raise their voice in defense as a way to establish power.
Honest people rarely become defensive when they’re asked questions, even if those questions seem accusatory in nature. When an honest person replies, their tone of voice is calm and consistent since there is no possible way they’ll be found out. They have nothing to worry about. There is no reason to lie or make up a story. There’s nothing to hide. TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT, that’s all it takes to be a GOOD HUMAN.
Tap ON (Tapan) 
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