Don’t waste time with people who don’t appreciate and value you for everything you have to offer. I see people keep chasing someone thinking they can change them or friends who don’t have their best interests at heart, but it doesn’t work that way. One of the keys to lasting relationships and friendships is MUTUAL RESPECT.
Don’t squander your time chasing anyone who has told you they don’t want you around. Evaluate all your relationships and weed out the negative ones. Go where you are wanted and stray from where you aren’t. Surround yourself with positive people and environments. (Not my words.)
It is so important to be thoughtful and considerate about what we do and how we treat others. You can’t tiptoe around other people, but you also have to treat people with genuine kindness and respect. When you act out of jealousy or negativity, you have to be prepared for the consequences of your actions.
Try to make few people smile everyday. It’s actually a really fun game to play with a friend. You never know when those people will smile back when you need it most. All of our actions have consequences. What we do will eventually come back to us, which is why it’s always best to act with kindness.
A best friend is someone you can count on wholeheartedly. Someone who you can trust to tell your deepest and darkest secrets to, and not have a worry in the world that a rumor will spread throughout the town. A best friend is someone who supports your every decision even if they may not always agree with it. A best friend is someone who is honest enough to tell you the truth, but loyal enough to remain by your side. A best friend is chosen family. Someone who can get on your nerves, but at the end of the day you know who really has your back and your best interest at heart.
A best friend is knowing that out of all the human beings in the world, you two choose each other.
Next few lines are for my university mates who always question my equation & my snapchat stories with my bestfriend DEMI, just because i am one happy happening sweet gentle naughty TAP. OK little bit grumpy as well sometimes. So, did DEMI ask me to make 2 babies with her for the 958th time when she was little drunk? Answer is; Yes. Did i push her in winter wonderland ice bar right after that question? Answer is; Yes ofcourse. If i get a chance, i will do that again & again every single day. DEMI, SORRY MY BESTIE BITCH. YOU KNOW I HATE YOU FR.😘😜😂
Mama said; “You never need to be religious. Religious people believe bit too much in god, angel, heaven, hell & demons. And that’s low-key toxic in 2021. But you must believe in KARMA, you will get what you give. Karma is real. The nature of our world is based on EQUILIBRIUM. Good intentions & kind acts will always be rewarded, even GOD’s existence depends on that goodness. Karma & Kindness go hand in hand. This tiny bit of knowledge is SPIRITUAL, not religious. Become little spiritual with time“.
My takeaway from this is; YOU AREN’T ALLOWED TO DISRESPECT PEOPLE. YOU CANNOT TREAT PEOPLE LIKE GARBAGE AND WORSHIP GOD AT THE SAME TIME. THAT’S BOTH DOUBLE STANDARDS & FAKEFUCKERY. Be truthful & real. If you have little time to make someone smile, do it. Buy a loaf of bread for a homeless person or crack a dick joke to a sad friend, both will help you score some good Karma for your trip to heaven when you leave this planet. If you think heaven is hoax, join hands with such people who will help you experience heaven on earth. Kindness towards the people who deserve is the easiest step towards your spiritual journey.
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage“.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavyweight words (right words). I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money on fastfood with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression/consistency of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. Half of them are stolen by my bestfriend DEMI, but I have no complaints on that, that stealing must continue, sometimes she looks good in my clothes & I adore her for good reasons. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown people who wear masks and secretly rejoice at my misfortunes. (Not the corona situation face mask). I have outgrown shrinking myself for those who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I hate smalltalk. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart or worthy enough. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things. And I’ve never felt freer. (Not my words).
The goal is to become an upgraded version of my real self & a better HUMAN BEING every next day of this life. And i am connected to everyone who’s a part of that journey. If we have a steady flow of communication, you are celebrated in my books. There’s no WONDER without some WONDERFUL people in life. SOMETIMES LIFE SEEMS UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE YOUR OLD LIFE DOESN’T FIT ON YOU ANYMORE. YOU’VE OUTGROWN THE OLD YOU.
Some days will always be harder than others. Be patient with yourself; you have won many battles but the war will take time. You can be seventeen or seventy and still make mistakes. Try not to punish yourself too much over them. You will compare yourself to others, everyone does it, but try to remember someone compares themselves to you too.
Be kinder to the thoughts in your head; you are thinking them for a reason. There will always be that person who you gave your whole and it still wasn’t enough. But you will always be enough for yourself. And when all’s said and done, that’s the person who lives your life. That’s the person you have to impress.
Be a friend to yourself, not an enemy. (Not my words)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. See it for the fun. And YES that’s the reason i never buy anything from H&M or Zara).
Look around you. How many people do you think are settling? Probably a hell of a lot. People settle into okay relationships, okay jobs, okay friends, and an okay life. Why? Because okay is comfortable. Okay pays the bills, and provides a warm bed at night. Some people are fine with okay, and guess what? That’s okay. But okay is not thrilling, it isn’t passion, it’s not life changing or unforgettable. Okay is not the reason you risk absolutely everything you’ve got for the smallest chance that something absolutely amazing could happen. Okay isn’t fun.
You have this one life. How do you wanna spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating yourself? Running after people who don’t care for you? Be brave to say NO to this OKAY. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. You have this one life. Make yourself proud.
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