When you react to something someone says or does, you may have a problem with boundaries. If someone is able to cause havoc by doing or saying something, he/she is in control of you at that point and your boundaries are lost.
When you respond, you remain in control with options and choices. If you feel yourself reacting, step away and regain control of yourself so people can’t force you to do or say something you do not want to do or say; and something that violates your separateness.
When you have kept your boundaries, choose the best option. The difference between responding and reacting is choice. When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are in control.
You might think that you don’t matter in this world, but because of you someone has a favorite mug to drink their tea you bought them. Someone hears a song on the radio, and it reminds them of you. Someone has read a book you recommended to them and gotten lost in its pages. Someone remembered a joke you told them and smiled to themselves any random day.
Never think you don’t have an impact. Your fingerprints can’t be wiped away from the little marks of kindness that you’ve left behind. (Not my words)
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. I am a big fan of Sacha Baron Cohen. His level of wit & comic timing is unachievable for mere mortals. Big up for the MTV COMEDIC GENIUS AWARD.)
When i say “I AM SOLD TO MY DESIRES & MY DESIRES ARE MY PURPOSE”, few friends always misunderstand my words. But i can get you, DESIRE as a word is heavily miscalculated. Be calm, just sit down once for a while & have a heart to heart conversation with yourself about what kind of life you want. Then you can logically figure out what are your dreams, goals & desires. That’s a huge relaxation to our humanly problems.
Amazing things happen when you get honest with yourself and start doing what you love, what makes you happy. Your life literally slows down. You stop wishing for the weekend. You stop merely looking forward to special events. You begin to live in each moment and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride with what is life, a feeling of contentment and joy. You move fluidly, steadily, calm and grateful. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born. LIVE TO FETCH YOUR PURPOSE. LIFE IS FUN, LET IT BE.
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love, not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own.
Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop planning your future & finance, leave notes in library books, workout, learn something new everyday, dress up for yourself, fetch your goals, give back to others & society, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise. Life is fun, let it be.
This post is my little respect to those who enjoy traveling.
Traveling messes you up, but in all the good ways. It leaves you craving more, an addiction that can never quite be met. Every place, every trip, every person is a new unexpected adventure; pulling you deeper into the love of wanderlust. Your heart begins to hurt when you’re standing still, and your mind begins to itch over the idea of new places you haven’t been. Fill your soul with adventure and traveling and you will live a fulfilled life.
Why once you’ve traveled for the first time all you want to do is leave again!! They call it the travel bug, but really it’s the urge to return to a place where you are surrounded by people who share common interests & speak the same language as you do. Not English or Spanish or German, but that language where others know what it’s like to leave, change, grow, experience, learn, then go back home again and feel more lost in your hometown then you did in the most foreign place you visited. Missing few of my stupid university mates while typing this post. Grateful for the days which always pop up as memories in my Google photos.
I am a big petrolhead, but i also prefer a silent calm environment with less noise & pollution. Cities are beautiful because of it’s people, so it’s always our responsibility to make it more sustainable. In case you are from Berlin, make sure you sign this petition. http://volksentscheid-berlin-autofrei.de
Everyone warns you about red flags in a relationship but nobody talks about green flags, let’s do it.
So here’s some:
1. He/she listens when you have issues and supports you through them.
2. He/she stops doing things that makes you uncomfortable.
3. He/she compromises only when it’s necessary.
4. He/she never puts you down deliberately, especially not publically.
5. He/she supports your ambitions & aids your personal growth.
6. He/she uses a calm rational tone during arguments.
7. He/she is able to apologise when they’re in the wrong.
8. He/she will hold your words respectfully in heart before holding you strong in arms.
Why should a relationship mean settling down? Wait out for someone who won’t let life escape you, who’ll challenge you and drive you towards your dreams. Someone spontaneous you can get lost in the world with. A relationship with the right person is a release, not a restriction. -Beau Taplin/The Liberation.
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