Healthy relationships feel boring to people who are used to relationships filled with toxicity, inconsistency & drama. They are not sure what to do with LOVE that is calm, kind, drama free, non toxic & doesn’t require them to constantly make painful sacrifices.
A healthy relationship is fun, consistent & always smooth sailing even during bad times, PERIOD.
(This paragraph got nothing to do with the post above. I promised to pay for one friend’s weekend trip & vacation. But 11 CMU cunts responded over facetime & iMessage within 15 minutes of my post. All i can say is, you assholes make me feel like superman or some kinda happy excited kid with so much care & attention. Ton of respect & love. I am grateful & delighted. Because it’s a celebration, entire vacation is on me. Click here DEMI, talking about this post, I HATE YOU.)😂 Pasted wrong link here, now corrected.
As you move forward, I hope you have the courage to do things differently, to be the kind of person who takes the risk, to be the kind of person who leads with their heart and shows up in their life with a ruthless dedication to learning, growing and enjoying the hell out of their moments here consistenly. DISCIPLINE & CONSISTENCY with your approach are the two tools which can empower you, make you stand out of the crowd in the race of becoming a better Human.
I hope you have the courage to never let comfort or apprehension convince you that you are better off staying still. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that knows there’s more out there for you, the part of yourself that is easy to quiet when you’re trying to live by the rules and the expectations of a world that has bred so much dissatisfaction and sadness. I hope you have the courage to trust the part of yourself that seeks freedom from those trends, from those boundaries, and I hope you have the courage to go after whatever it is that genuinely makes you want to get up in the morning. I hope you have the courage to find the things in life that ignite you and deepen your understanding of the world and those within it. I hope you have the courage to fight for a future that inspires you, even if it doesn’t look the way you thought it would. I hope you have the courage to change. I hope you have the courage to trust in the person you’re becoming. (Not my words).
Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.
– Will Smith.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Global citizen Live, watching it with my bestie bitch since last night. Just shared it because of the music & message.)
There are people who notice you only when you shine, or when you fall into the darkness. Not the average you. Not the mediocre you. But the great you, or the not-so-great you. The people who are worthiest of your care are not those who only notice you at your best and worst but those who are with you at all times. They don’t need an excuse to love you. They don’t need an excuse to talk to you, or to ask you how you’re doing!! They don’t need an excuse to share their happiness with you. They don’t need an explanation. They give you one without you asking for it. They assume the good in you before the bad.
So keep eyes open just so you don’t miss those people. Such equations take long long time & trust to develop. Once you find them, never let them go because those are not just friends but family members. They’re life companions. They are the people who will tell you when you are wrong simply because they’ve allowed themselves to tie their well-being to yours. (Not my words). Vibe with people who are good for you.
TRUST is a bond between two people that is found only when they are able to listen and understand where the other person is coming from. That to me is the key to friendships and relationships.
Relationships between family, friends, significant others, and colleagues are complicated and full of learning experiences. Nobody comes into this world knowing everything. We all go through different experiences, make mistakes, have successes, and then make more mistakes that we can learn from. We all take our own sweet time to trust, evaluate, make a move, prepare and proceed.
When talking to friends or anyone who’s a part of your life, make sure you are really listening to what they have to say and aren’t distracted by something else. Most people just listen to respond, reply, retaliate or react, which is complete nonsense. Listen to understand, COMMUNICATION is the first step to TRUST. You owe that to them and you would want the same in return. The ability to trust and listen to the people in your life is the foundation all healthy relationships are built on. (Not my words).
In our lives we experience many different kinds of friendships. On the rare occasion we encounter someone so special that we just know we met for a reason. These are the kinds of friendships that last forever no matter what city you live in or how often you speak, no matter how old you get or what phase of life you are in. It’s the type friendship that has no judgement and sticks by you even when you fuck up. It’s the kind of friendship that makes you understand unconditional love. Maybe you met your most special friend when you were 4, or 14, or 35… or maybe you are yet to cross paths. It happens at different stages for different people. But when it does, there is no greater comfort than knowing that this person will be right there beside you to share the happiness, the sadness and everything in-between. Never, ever take these friendships for granted. (Not my words).
This paragraph is for my close friends. Yes i have a secret Instagram account since a month, it’s more like my travel timeline diary. Hardly 8-9 close friends know about it. Ask each other, let’s see who spills the bean first. I post few pics when i go to a new place, flight window seat view, some islands, coffee, the best pizza in town, my sneakers, it’s a raw me with privacy in focus. I hardly have 20 followers & i get 20-30 likes in each post. Recent 30 posts have likes or comments from 1 or 2 blue tick verified accounts. NOW THE TASK; My only rule to achieve something is; I allow myself 2 years to get it done or I just leave it like it didn’t exist. I was planning something big in 2019 for 3-4 months. Corona happened, i had to take a pause. I am already 3-4 months short of those 2 years. Go to that secret Instagram account, figure out what’s that i was working in 2019? Those blue tick accounts have a pattern. Once you have an idea about the answer, text me the title of it. The first person who gets it right, your expenses for our weekend trip & next vacation is on me. (Demi my bestie bitch, prize not for you. You know my credit card pin as well & I hate you.😋)
DO NOT LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO REPLY/RESPOND. THAT WAY YOU WILL ONLY RETALIATE. LISTEN WITH THE INTENT TO UNDERSTAND.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. It’s just that i hate all such assholes who try to sell courses. Such punters have polluted internet, scammed thousands of people & that’s creating a world which is losing faith in simple basic values like HUMANITY.)
Your words can be more healing than any kind of medicine. They can be more toxic than any kind of poison. They can ease a mind of its nagging questions. They can relieve a heart from its doubts. They can free a heart from the chains that keep it holding on and that make it fear letting go. They can spring hope into a deserted heart. They can shatter a soul barely holding on to the pieces that make it strong. They can be a shelter for the broken and a canon of motivation for those who need confidence. They can build mountains of confidence and build stairs to those dreams that hide above the clouds. They can dig holes into the darkest and deepest of scars. They can strike happiness into the souls in most need of it, and They can strike sadness into the souls of those most far away from it.
So, before you speak, ask yourself if your words are true. If they are not, then you are fooling the hopeless into hope that won’t last & you are also lying to yourself. You are breaking down walls temporarily that will be built even higher afterwards. Say what the truth and genuineness in your heart need to say. Say no more. Your words are equally powerful & destructive, measure it before saying something.
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