There are some things that must happen because they must. Things you can’t avoid, like growing up, failure, grieving, happiness, etc. But when it comes down to it, life is really about people. It’s about who you meet and who you don’t. Who forgets you and who remembers. Who soothes your bruises & helps you heal. Who you run after and who chases you down the line. It’s about who’s there when you feel alone and who’s not. Who you could talk to and who makes it hard for you to be yourself. That’s what’s important, PEOPLE.
The way they look into your eyes right before they’re gone and the way they smile right back at you when you return back home. People, it’s always about people. The ones who love you, protect you and the ones who are there for you when you need them most. I hope you never forget that. PEOPLE are precious, choose wisely.
1. Become more observant. Notice everything that surrounds you. The world is full of examples, ideas, words, wisdom, mistakes and experiences.
2. Collect ideas. Ideas and thoughts tend to evaporate from your mind too fast. Try to capture them before it is too late. Ideally, write down or sketch every single one.
3. Read. Read a lot. Reading is probably the best investment of time ever. Devote at least 30 minutes per day to reading. Ideally, have a book always with you. If you aren’t interested to buy a book or Kindle, then watch any free documentary in YouTube which can help you learn something new.
4. Analyze your day. Before going to bed, spend 10 minutes analyzing your day. Consider what things you managed to do well and what mistakes you made.
5. Start writing. The biggest value of a good writing skill is that it cultivates a discipline. First of all, the discipline of thinking. Your thoughts will cease to be random and chaotic. They will gradually become systematic and structured instead.
We all made choices that maybe weren’t the best ones. The beauty of being a HUMAN is hidden in the mistakes we made. First accept yourself for everything wrong you did. Because acceptance matters nothing if you aren’t honest. None of us are completely innocent, but we get a fresh start everyday to be a better person than we were yesterday. Learn to be a positive/better version of yourself with time. Be you.
Life can be fulfilling at both 16 and also 60. 25 and 35. Joy is timeless. Learning how to make the most of where you are does not have an age cut-off or a deadline. You will always be able to sit and wonder about things that could have gone differently. But you can also trust: you have not missed out on what was meant for you.
I know it’s hard to trust when so much is unknown, so instead of trying to make sense of it all at once, take it all color by color, tree by tree, scent by scent, take it one by one. You don’t have to take it all in at once. Take in the newness of it all one moment at a time without worrying about the moments to come. Let that be enough. Breathe deep and let this moment be enough. Let this be a place where you find peace.
Remember the ground beneath your feet, you belong here. No one has taken your place. You are not too far from grace. Your story might be unfolding differently than expected but that doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful. Where you are meant to be, you will be in time, no matter your age or stage of life. Life is fun. Let it be. Let it flourish at it’s own pace.
Be with someone who is invested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you’re cute or funny. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you.
Someone who wants to read every word you write. Someone who wants to hear every note of your favorite song, and watch every scene of your favorite movie. Someone who wants to find every scar upon your body, and learn where each one came from. Someone who communicates with both head & heart. Someone who knows why you prefer black coffee & sourdough pizza. Someone who wants to know your favorite brand of toothpaste & shower gel, and which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them.
There is a difference between attraction, interest & the word i mentioned INVEST. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are, and hold onto them.
Every relationship/equation/friendship in your life are an immense investment of consistent time & energy, never offer discounts on that.
Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time. A book is proof that humans are capable of magic.
Recovery is a process no matter what it is you’re overcoming. No one is better or greater for recovering faster. It’s not a race. You need to go at your own pace, even if that is pace is slow. There will be days when you feel like giving up, don’t. There will be days when you’re at risk of relapsing, don’t. So long as you set your own pace and never go backward in your recovery, you’re making tremendous progress and that’s all that matters. So be proud of what you’ve accomplished for yourself.
Don’t compare your recovery process to others. Remember that each of us heals physically, mentally, and emotionally at the pace that’s right for ourselves. Give yourself the time you need and deserve.
Be disciplined about what you respond and react to. Most people are inconsistent, that’s their comfort zone. Not everyone or everything deserves your time, energy and attention. Stay in your light. Vibe with your tribe.
Few ways you can express how you feel towards someone;
1. I love you. 2. I need you. 3. I want you. 4. I want to be with you. 5. I don’t want to be without you. 6. I can’t live without you. 7. I miss you.
NEED, needs can be met somewhere else & being needy means being weak as well. LOVE, this word is highly misused by people & especially someone like me needs a year to trust after a year of healing. WANT is my favourite & number-3 is my pick out of all these 7. WANT is that animalistic desire inside. Which means i know i have few suitors/options, but who cares because it’s you and just you that i WANT for myself. In case you love someone, remind them constantly & consistently that YOU WANT THEM.
Last time someone said “I WANT YOU” to me was on my birthday. I haven’t replied that till now. Never rushed towards anyone. Never allowed anyone to rush towards me either. The simple reason is; “If someone is investing their time & energy on me, that person deserves a whole TAP”. I am that kind of a person who hides nothing. My only secrets are my bank account/credit card pin or my email/social media account passwords. And right now, i am still in that phase of healing i mentioned above.
Whenever i say “LIONESS” in my posts, it’s my appreciation to that person who understands where i am coming from & why. Appreciated for picking/dropping me at airport. Appreciated for taking me out to my favourite brunch. Appreciated for buying me a pair of white vans kicks after watching squid games. Appreciated for helping me with carwash. Appreciated for typing my thesis. Very few people come with a clean heart & no stupid outlandish expectations. So LIONESS, Like your favourite alphabet is T, my favourite word is “APPRECIATION”. Rest all are a LEO-LEO thing i guess.😜 Every relationship of your life is a major investment of time & energy. Take your sweet time, that says all about who’s who.
Tap ON (Tapan) 
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