It’s a common saying that actions speak louder than words, but what about intentions? While actions are what we see, intentions are the fuel behind them. A kind gesture made with the sole intent of receiving something in return isn’t truly kind. It’s a transaction. Conversely, an action that goes wrong, but was born from a place of love and a desire to help, still holds immense value.
Our intentions shape our character and define our moral compass. They determine the true meaning of our actions, making them, in many ways, more important. It’s time we started judging ourselves and others not just by what we do, but why we do it.
Majority of people lack authenticity. They don’t have own ideas, own values, own morals & own plans to succeed in life. And those are the most dangerous people to be around. If someone has a better idea, they try to piggyback on that. High chances they both fail, later they blame each other or some third person/circumstance for their failure. This happens with career, relationships, businesses & also in investment ventures.
You must avoid such people. There’s nothing to learn from playbook of a story which is heading towards a disaster.
If you want to learn something or if you are looking for an inspiration, reach out to those who know what they have already built & who are in your reach.
Let me put myself as an example here; As a senior fintech data analytics professional, I can talk about any bank/company/country which is heading towards growth or a downfall. My job is to play & work with data. Because I know the data, I make right decisions before investments. I have a huge interest in fitness, diet, farming & chemistry of how hormones work in both genders for optimal health. My ideas/authenticity stops there.
I am aware of everything with ample amounts of information because I watch a lot of documentaries & I read a lot of news, but i am not the guy to give suggestions. I don’t give ideas/suggestions on what I haven’t built. Now if someone will ask me about arts, my opinions/ideas are useless there. And i openly accept i am not good at many more such things in life.
The moment you accept your lacuna, you have the wiggle room to work for your growth. Fetch that growth your mind tells you authentically, your goals/dreams/desires are connected to that & stop piggybacking on other people’s ideas/opinions.
Today a person from San Ramon asked me twice about how I know she is from San Ramon!! Now someone must make such woke dumbfucks understand “there’s something called Google analytics which is a plug-in in WordPress”, that can tell me which city/country a person is from, it can also give more info on telecom provider/phone model/OS/os version/browser.
But when you think Bernie Sanders is the right guy to run a country because of his 1940 socialist views, of course your mind will be rotten enough to not understand technology. Socialism works only when capitalism brings tax dollars. I know millionaires who chill at home while putting their entire company & business in public. And recently we are seeing penny pinchers worried about cyber security. What I can suggest is; woke people should definitely be worried about cyber bullying, that too only if you upload purple hair Tiktoks or if you identify as a cat.
We are seeing live example of how woke/liberal mindset destroys people’s critical thinking? It stops your growth towards a prosperous future by making you believe someone else took your spot. The truth is; nobody even wanted your spot to start with.
Society is already struggling with all sorts of oil, environment, veganism, gender, trans, race & religionphobia related woke nonsense. There’s no moderation left in society. There’s no desire for understanding or interest in education/information. Recently we are seeing all such victimhood garbage in universities & schools, which is even more dangerous.
People want to know what kind of person I am when it comes to political belief. Let me answer it today. This is a personal thing, but that also has shaped my personality. So it’s worth a post & I can answer this right away.
I want every American to work towards making America the world’s best country. I want every Brit to work towards making United Kingdom the world’s best place to be. I want every Mexican to work towards making Mexico the world’s best country. I want every Indian to work towards making India the world’s best country.
All this can only happen when there is bit of nationalism or pride for your motherland is left in your soul. Nationalism really has cure to take us towards a world where merit wins via competition. Apparantly competition & success are also right wing conservative strategy to vilify the poor. Apparantly nationalism is a toxic trait of most conservative people. And most of my friends see me as a conservative compassionate capitalist, of course I completely agree with them.
My friends know my emotions are exclusive to babies & animals, I feel they deserve the world where all answers should be YES. But once you are a 16, your life is your responsibility, your own happiness is your responsibility, your success is your responsibility. And I don’t have kindness for adults. People need to get over blaming family/government/surrounding/society/politics for own failure. Your life is your responsibility. And your mindset is shaping your life even when you are reading this post.
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(Post is completely scattered. But I am against all sorts of WOKE DUMBFUCKERY. People know this. This post is just a brief summary.)
Long ago, a man went to see a circus show. Before the show began, he saw that a lot of elephants were held by only a small rope tied to their leg. The man suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that such huge creatures were being held by such a thin yet small rope.
There were no chains and no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could break away the ropes at any time from their bonds but for some reason they weren’t even trying. The man saw the elephant’s trainer standing next to elephants. He was curious to know why the elephants weren’t trying to escape from here.
To this, the trainer told him that they were like this since the time they were very young. At that time, it was enough to hold them. As they grew up, they were conditioned to believe they could not break away. They believed the rope could still hold them. On hearing this, the man was completely shocked. He was looking at the elephants in a pity and he went away from there.
Moral of the story:
High chances you are your biggest hurdle on your path to success & a joyful life.
We all survive with a “FALSE HUMAN BELIEF” doubting our own strength which lowers our self-esteem, self-respect, capacity & capabilities. Keep working on yourself & you will experience a better version of yourself with time.
• Consistently connect with people who fill you up. • Practice being vulnerable. • Stop fighting to be right. • Apologize less often for things that aren’t your fault. • Become less people pleasing. • Allow things to be good enough instead of perfect. • Practice what you know to true or helpful. • Educate yourself at least 20 minutes a day (read or watch a informative video). • Create more joyful moments. • Follow your intuition. • Inform others when something isn’t working for you. (Not my words.)
When we say “STRIVE TO BE SUCCESSFUL”, we must mention SUCCESS in what form! In my eyes SUCCESS is an amazing form of accomplishment & it can be anything.
You are a good student, that’s a SUCCESS. You are a good employee who loves & enjoys his/her job, that’s SUCCESS. You are an entrepreneur or a businessman to a profitable venture, that’s a SUCCESS. You lost 10kilo body weight in a month for shooting a music video, that’s SUCCESS. You travelled 41 countries before turning 29, that’s SUCCESS. You are truthful about what you are, that’s SUCCESS. You never showed deceptive or inconsistent characteristics, that’s SUCCESS. You are confident & consistent, that’s SUCCESS. You never allowed bad times or bad people bring down your vibe, that’s SUCCESS. You were patient with time to get what you wanted, that’s SUCCESS. You baked the best sourdough pizza & sugarfree cheesecake for all your 17 friends, that’s a SUCCESS. You know your bestfriend DEMI is a crybaby & despite that you had a long conversation about all your differences in opinion while grabbing her by waist, even that’s a SUCCESS.
SUCCESS is such a wildly overrated word that makes most people scared to even think about it. We must use this word “SUCCESS” in our day to day life to feel more fulfilled in our way of living.
AS LONG AS YOU KEEP GOING, YOU’LL KEEP GETTING BETTER. AND AS YOU GET BETTER, YOU GAIN MORE CONFIDENCE. THAT ALONE IS SUCCESS. (Not my words.)
Consistent effort with clean intentions always leads to SUCCESS.
Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer: We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face. We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight. Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing. DEMI made the right choice with place & timing. We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose. We were able to come back stronger. Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time. No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
(DON’T ASK ABOUT THE PICTURE. OLD ONE & STOLEN FROM MY SNAPCHAT.)
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws. We miss opportunities. We disrespect good people. Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing. We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess. Who says it’s easy!! Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”. I admire those who strive to be a better human. It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions. Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving. JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
Everyone wants to know how i tolerate my bestfriend DEMI since past 700 years of our friendship because her attitude is bit aggressive?
Let me answer & YES, it’s a long answer: We were attending Lory’s birthday party near Cardiff bay. Party was over & some Justin Bieber song started playing. DEMI walked towards me & said; “Rudey, my pussy is drying up because of this shit song. Let’s leave & let’s drive to Tenby. We will talk about everything after reaching the beach.”
We both laughed & i still remember those exact words. And Yes, DEMI still calls me RUDEY because of my rude/angry/grumpy face. We went through a bad fight before 5 months of that birthday party & i stopped talking to Demi. I decided i must allow her some time to think & respond logically instead of continuing that fight. Only few friends know Tenby is my favourite coastal town in Britain & i prefer afternoon swimming when i think about relaxing. DEMI made the right choice with place & timing. We went swimming & she broke the ice while chilling at beach. We had a long open vivid conversation about everything which went loose. We were able to come back stronger. Years gone & our equation keeps getting better with time. No matter how much i deny, she is the sassiest angel i ever came across. Bestfriends for some good reasons, and i can’t appreciate more.
(DON’T ASK ABOUT THE PICTURE. OLD ONE & STOLEN FROM MY SNAPCHAT.)
27-Feb is the date we had a bad fight & we both stopped communication for 5 months. We both still talk about the stupid reason behind it & what we missed in those 5 months. We laugh at each other’s silent treatment. We tease each other about why that was just unnecessary.
We humans always take goodness for granted & our ego stops us from accepting our flaws. We miss opportunities. We disrespect good people. Sometimes we hurt others without even knowing. We make blunders easily.
But there are very few who accept & cross that path to acknowledge own mess. Who says it’s easy!! Very few are ready to talk about what’s wrong in them & why they are ready to change for better instead of farting from mouth “THAT’S HOW I AM”. I admire those who strive to be a better human. It’s easy to go vulnerable towards such people who come with clean intentions. Every equation can be easy, soothing, happening & loving. JUST CHOOSE THOSE WHO CHOOSE YOU.
My grandpa died before 4 years at the age of 97+. He lost memory during his last few days. But whenever he was able to recollect his thoughts & was able to understand what’s going on, he used to talk about his involvement in Mahatma Gandhi’s khadi movement during India’s freedom struggle. Khadi means hand woven cotton fabric. He used to preach few things till the day he was alive;
1. Saying/wishing/greeting RAM RAM is not a religious thing, even though LORD RAM is the highest celebrated deity in Hindu religion. It’s about seeing divine in other human life & exchanging equal amounts of respect for that reason.
2. The biggest sinners in this world go to church/temple/mosque very often. Because they have to keep reminding god to wash their sins.
3. 10% of your wealth/income must go towards DANA (in Sanskrit it means DONATION), donation towards helping underprivileged & upliftment of society.
Not a secret, i own a small health supplement business since September-2017. And now that business enjoys a loyal customer base because of good quality products & quick customer query resolution. With those fitness enthusiasts in mind, i started an athleisure clothing brand in August-2019.
Like every other human, i am not perfect & my business is also not perfect all the time. Especially the atheleisure clothing brand i am talking about, not talking about profit or loss. My operation is small and we never made a loss. I am talking about clothes not being perfect sometimes. While manufacturing/stitching/printing, in few cases there’s a misplaced logo or a packaging label mishap, a stitching at wrong part of the clothing material or short hoodie strings, so we reject few clothes while passing it through quality testing. But even those quality reject clothes are completely usable, sometimes even i use them as my layer-1 clothes during winter. Like previous year, this year too we will go to a nearby orphanage & a refugee shelter to donate some winter clothes/blanket/woolen socks. There’s an amazing feeling of fulfillment while giving it back. I am forever grateful to almighty for giving me little more than i can consume.
(In case anyone wants to join in Cardiff, i have updated the address in our CMU group. Please don’t try to overcrowd the place, 12-13 people are enough. It bums my mood to see people roaming around without mask, so please wear a mask while coming.)
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