People are always divided with opinions towards a happy life. Some believe MONEY is important & some believe LOVE is important. This fight between MONEY & LOVE is so peculiar that i laugh at it whenever this discussion pops up.
What nobody talks about is, both are a painstakingly time consuming slow process till you reach it’s epitome. Most people purposefully lie about both of these two. At the end, you get exactly what you invest. Even a small lie has it’s consequences, Karma keeps a count of it’s course. People fail in MONEY (material growth) or LOVE because of their impatient behaviour or inconsistency. Stay calm, quiet, upfront and focused while you are fetching something purposeful in life.
Most people fail to walk their TRUTH, fail to be true to self and others at the same time. Being honest never comes easy, but it’s easier than any kind of lie/deceit or hiding something. This is what sets a truthful person apart from random crowd. TRUTHFUL OR A HONEST PERSON, i am talking about.
They own up to their mistakes. Honest people have all kinds of amazing traits, but obviously no one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, but what sets honest people apart is their willingness to take responsibility and apologize when they mess up. You’ve probably encountered someone who’s bad at saying sorry. Instead of owning up to their mistakes they’ll make excuses or apologize that you experience negative feelings, not that they did something wrong. Honest people are different. Those with integrity seek the truth, even if the truth exposes them for doing something wrong. They will swallow their pride and their ego for the sake of an authentic and sincere apology. Telling the truth doesn’t come naturally. Defense mechanisms, like blame projection and deceit are much easier alternatives in the moment, but avoiding responsibility only creates more trouble.
Hopefully this will help you identify if you are someone honest or someone in your life is truly honest. It might also make you realize that perhaps you’re not as honest as you thought. Nevertheless we should all pursue truth, even when it seems daunting and difficult. The world needs more honesty. If you lie about who you are or about someone else, what actually happened or how you feel, you’ll only dig yourself deeper into a problem of your own creation. The choice is yours. Be honest or lie, what you choose will impact your life immensely.
Lying may be more common than you think. One study found that 40% of adults lie at least once in a day, usually in small ways. And even though some people lie more or less than others, a lie is a lie. So how do you navigate a world full of liars when you value honesty and integrity. Here are two major traits of genuinely honest people so you can decide whether you or someone in your life is truly a honest person:
1. They have a calm yet strong speaking voice. One of the easiest telltale signs of lying is an aggressive voice when you catch someone in a lie, they’ll often raise their voice in defense as a way to establish power. Honest people rarely become defensive when they’re asked questions, even if those questions seem accusatory in nature. When an honest person replies, their tone of voice is calm and consistent since there is no possible way they’ll be found out. They have nothing to worry about. There is no reason to lie or make up a story. There’s nothing to hide.
2. Honest people come across as rude sometimes. They are less concerned with catering to your feelings. They would rather tell you a truth that hurts then let you believe a lie that makes you feel good about yourself. They aren’t afraid to tell the truth, even if it means they’ll come across as rude or harsh. Because of this fact you might think an honest person is mean sometimes. If you’re not ready for the raw unadulterated truth, then don’t ask an honest person. They’re Not going to sugarcoat a situation or pretend that everything is OK. When it isn’t OK, they’ll present the facts and give their personal opinions even if it’s not what you want to hear. If you’ve ever received tough information from an honest person know that their intent is not malice, It’s HONESTY.
Two things always go hand in hand: SUCCESS & RESPECT. Be good at what you do. Everyone loves competent people, especially those who present their best work all the time. You may just be starting out in your profession, but that doesn’t mean you’re not deserving of success & respect.
It’s about starting small and building from there. It’s through improving and gaining experience that you establish yourself and earn the respect of others for your efforts. It’s not an overnight process, but eventually it will gain right people’s attention which may bring tons of prosperity your way.
During my engineering college days I was part of a group with all electronic & rap music enthusiasts. We all planned to form a band together, because that time was all about boy bands or music groups like black eyed peas, linkin park, back street boys, pussycat dolls. There were two lead guitar players in our group, sometimes i still see EMY from electrical engineering branch playing drum, i was good at playing piano/electric keyboard/launchpad, there were two singers with high pitch vocals & it was an amazing combination of 6 young energetic people. The best part is we all failed together in becoming a band. I loved the failure part of it, because we weren’t something unique or better for the same reason. Studying engineering is a tough journey on it’s own, we didn’t put enough time into our music.
Most of the time i see young people peep into an idea which is more like lust towards Money or Fame that they don’t deserve. Today i am talking about something called “Group goals”. I am saying it out of observation & experience. Whenever someone says “I am planning to do something different with friends or in a group, let me assure you that amazing nonsense will never materialize to real world“.
We don’t see the same dream with 5 others. If you aren’t habituated to walk alone towards your GOALS, your GOAL is nothing but a daydream.
Distinguished kindness from always having to do things for people, trying to make everyone happy won’t get you very far. Being a pushover is highly undesirable. If your goal is to be respected, being too nice to everyone all the time isn’t a durable path. Some people might even think you’re not genuine. If you don’t want to do something, say so. If you’ve got a dissenting opinion and knowing your heart that you’re right, say so. Being assertive in a polite courteous and respectful way will earn respect from others even when you disagree with them. Speak up when mistreated. Don’t just take it when someone is mistreating or taking advantage of you. Be professional and diplomatic, but don’t be silent speaking up for yourself. Not always easy to do, but a start is not a bad idea at any point of life.
True confidence is very different from egotistical swagger. When people believe in themselves and their abilities, there are things they simply don’t do. Don’t get me wrong, learning to be confident is important but there are certain behaviors that sets highly confident people apart from everyone else. Two major things confident people never do:
1: They don’t over focus on appearance. When someone is self-confident, they have a healthy relationship with their appearance. They stay Fit and well groomed, and they eat healthy food because they know their bodies deserve to be taken care properly. Confident people strive to put their best foot forward and then accept themselves as they are.
2. They don’t try to change their personality. Whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert, they can still be confident. Confident people understand that self-assurance comes from feeling good about who they are and what they can achieve by being completely authentic. They don’t try to be someone they’re not, because they understand that self-acceptance is a vital element of self-confidence.
It’s impossible to have a belief that wouldn’t reflect in our actions. Truthfully our actions are surer proof what we really believe. In a life of meaningful impact is what you truly seek, then selflessness is a cardinal virtue you have to demonstrate continually. You should learn be accomodating, open & helpful to people even when you barely know them. When this becomes your life habit, it is proof that you have attained some form of growth, because truly matured people lead selfless lives – they are always ready to give & help the growth of others.
Expression of selflessness reveals our true intentions.
There are liars, cheaters, thieves, criminals, Donald Trump & all sort of other deceptive people, all have one thing in common is their “LIE”. Basically all are different degree of LIARS. On the other hand there is also another set of equally lackluster group of folks known as “INCONSISTENT PEOPLE”. And i swear they are even more worse compared to LIARS. Liars are a turn off, but it takes a little time to catch their lies. But inconsistent people are way more prominent in their part of nonsense, you can catch their INCONSISTENCY very next moment. Another funny part, most LIARS are INCONSISTENT by nature.
My post was to make everyone aware of any INCONSISTENT person around. You don’t need to confront them, just get rid of them. Right people vibe & match your energy, then stick for a long run no matter what’s your taste or status!! Liars will never connect to this school of thought. Truth is trust. Be blunt to block any inconsistent person from life, that’s the best gift you can give yourself before 2020 is over. Still another month away, let’s end it on a good note.
Lifted from bestie bitch’s story.
(This paragraph has nothing to do with the post above. We are slowly but surely recovering from this pandemic. I wish/hope everyone is taking care of own health and happiness. Today i am not around family or my same set of friends that i have spent previous few amazing years, i am talking about geographical distance here. This is the time we used to share some warmth, have some nice sugery/greasy yummy food & create few good memories meanwhile. I didn’t host any kinda party this year because of COVID-19, that money was meant to be spent for my people. So many things didn’t go as planned. What breaks my heart is those people whose lives & livelihood got effected. Went to a nearby homeless shelter today asking whether i can donate some sweatshirts/jackets/blankets because it’s almost winter. They replied, there is enough winter clothes available except some winter woolen socks because they always run short. I bought socks for everyone in that homeless shelter & i wasn’t even able to spend the whole thanksgiving dinner money. Only message i wanted to share here; YES we all are going through a tough time. Do your tiny bit towards the needy even if you want to flex/share it in your instagram or YouTube. There is nothing wrong is spreading the right. HAPPY THANKSGIVING.)
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