We all want to be liked and loved, but when we focus on this instead of making sure we love ourselves first, we get lost in other people’s opinions and we stop living honestly. If someone calls you a name, don’t let it bother you, don’t react. Feeding into their drama will only negatively affect your character.
What makes you special and unique? Think about one of your eccentricities and embrace it every day. When we are consumed by what other people think of us, we allow them to dictate how we live our lives, and then without realizing it, we lose touch with who we are. Respect your individuality. BE YOU.
A lot of people are skeptical about giving a homeless person money. One thing you can do is buy a homeless person a meal or a bottle of water so at least you know they will get something nutritious to eat or drink. Last week i saw a homeless man and remembered that I had a protein bar & a pack of biscuits in my backpack. I went up to him and said, “I don’t want to offend you, but if you’re hungry, I’d love to give this to you.” He reacted like he had won the lottery. I couldn’t believe how something so simple could make him so happy.
Go out of your way to help a homeless person, or someone else in need, today. We lead a busy life without giving enough space to humility & humbleness in our hearts.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself. It’s thinking of yourself less. -C. S. LEWIS.
Just like snowflakes, there is no one else on this planet like you. Don’t waste your time trying to be like other people. Be the best you and own it. You’re best at being yourself, not anyone else. If we all looked, talked, and walked the same, no one would be unique. Individuality wouldn’t exist. Being different is what makes us special and world so exciting.
Assess your character. Be certain that you’re not modeling yourself after someone, but just being who you are meant to be. Go ahead, be weird because “normal” is boring. Always be a first grade version of yourself instead of a second grade version of someone else.
This post/story is about basic human decency. Yesterday i came across a horrible person, who misbehaved a small restaurant owner while paying for some eggy bread, pork pie & tea. He was short of some cash even though he came with entire family in a BMW X5. His argument started escalating over Apple pay, that too in a small & new cash only eatery. Later he went to ATM, withdrew some cash & paid for his food. According to his words; if you aren’t accepting Apple pay, you should go back to country side & he was some corporate employee for BAE systems. The words he used against that restaurant owner made me question his upbringing & it also made me realise what an highly educated asshole looks like. We live in a materialistic world where we literally judge someone looking at their clothes/house/car/phone/financial status, the last comes EDUCATION, QUALIFICATION, PERSONALITY & BEHAVIOUR, that too only if we enjoy a healthy interaction. So, Why these so-called few corporate employees belittle street food truck or small restaurant owners in their head!!
Because i mentioned these words “Materialistic world” & “Corporate Employee”, let’s talk about the money part first. Any engineer/banker/software developer/analyst with 3-5 years of job experience makes easy 95-130k salary per annum, no matter it’s Dollars/Euros/Pounds. Social security+Insurance+Tax, combined all are around 38-42% of entire income in most developed countries. Now monthly in hand salary comes close to 5200-6700 Dollars/Euros/Pounds.
Let’s talk about the small scale business owner who runs a food truck or a street food restaurant, here an easy quick meal costs 7-10 Dollars/Euros/Pounds. It can be a Full English breakfast/Tacos/Pastrami Sandwich/Doner kebab or a salad with tea/coffee/any kind of drink. They receive 80-90 such orders during lunch hour, mostly regular customers during a rush hour. And casually another 80-90 orders at evening because that’s the preferable time to cater tourists/students/kids/young people/couples. Total around 170 orders of 7-10 bucks food product, gross 1500 bucks everyday. Sunday everything is closed. So it comes to 1500×26=39000 worth of sales in a month, not the profit amount. If you deduct the raw ingredients+gas+rent+electricity+3-4 employees salary from that 39000, that small scale business owner is still left with easy 9000-12000 Dollars/Euros/Pounds in his hands every month.
Tried to show you an easy estimation in both scenarios. I am saying it from my experience. I know a half Indian brit who lives in Berlin, he started a ghost kichen sourdough pizzeria in Alexanderplatz in the middle of pandemic. Now it’s a small yet busy full blown cafe. His cafe is open only 4 hours every evening, but he makes way more than my salary. Even in terms of money, a small scale business owner enjoys a better financial stability compared to any employee. The good part is, EVERY BUSINESS OWNER IS HIS OWN BOSS. They work their ass off for their family, so that family can enjoy a life worth calling LIFE. I have studied 4 years bachelor’s in engineering, then MBA, now i am a PhD research scholar (still a student), i also have 4+ years of job experience as a data/research analyst & software developer. I bet that person who started a small mediocre petty drama must have studied something like i did. And most of the time people who work at multinational companies imagine they enjoy the best lifestyle compared to rest, which can be true. But does that allow anyone to be a jackass on streets? We can’t cure certain issues by cursing & shouting. Education is not just there for earning a qualification. If education isn’t making you humble, grateful & a better human, then you are simply a waste of time & waste of energy for society.
(Forgot to schedule this post on Sunday. When i mentioned yesterday above, i am talking about an incident from Saturday. The restaurant owner i mentioned is one of my friends from A-level days.)
Some people think; ADVENTURE is dangerous, DISCIPLINE is brutal, TRUTH is lethal, LOVE is hard, & LIFE isn’t moving.
These are all low-key narcissistic inconsistent personality traits which brings severe unhappiness to life. And all you gotta do is; stay away from those who think like this.
ADVENTURE brings joy. DISCIPLINE teaches you to be consistent. TRUTH is core of basic human values. LOVE is beautiful. & LIFE is fun.
You have to carry this attitude forward in life. Remain consistent with the way you are. That helps you to be in sync with life. Hangout with those who reflect & second your thoughts. A happy person is not a person who’s always in a good situation, but rather a person who always has a good attitude in every situation. VIBE WITH YOUR TRIBE.
Mama once said; “We don’t just entertain friends/relationships outta fun, we build them over time, we respect them & we keep them. That’s why never accept or serve discounted garbage“.
I was in my teen days. I was still getting pocket money from parents. I wasn’t able to understand those heavyweight words (right words). I thought my mum was talking about not buying discounted clothes/stuffs or wasting money on fastfood with friends during weekend trips. Most of my friends know i hate discounted clothes now too. In fact, i don’t have a single piece of clothing from any fast fashion brands.
Coming closer to my 30, now i am understanding that she told me not to hangout with people who have discounted/cheap personality/approach/attitude/mindset, It took me almost 14 years to figure out the real meaning behind those wise words. Being a MAN means progression/consistency of understanding, knowledge, acceptance & virtue while developing better habits.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. Watch it to understand how your shopping habits are shaping a climate & humanitarian disaster. There’s a reason I never buy clothes from H&M, Zara, TK Maxx or any store/brand with 50% discount board. I buy clothes which cost at least a hundred quid or more, and i wear them for ages. They stay with me because, I know I have spent enough money to buy them. And i fully remember how much I paid, I have a photographic memory. Fun part is, I still have t-shirts, jackets, hoodies & sneakers from my 8th grade & engineering college days which fit perfectly even today. Half of them are stolen by my bestfriend DEMI, but I have no complaints on that, that stealing must continue, sometimes she looks good in my clothes & I adore her for good reasons. FYI, I am a sneakerhead & my love for watches is something divine.)
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