Everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head.
Always.
All the time.
That story makes you what you are.
We build ourselves out of that story.
-Patrick Rothfuss.
Tag: story
True me.. Tap-941..
I used to run and hide from my feelings especially when I felt something that was upsetting, painful, or uncomfortable.
But over time I’ve learned to accept all of my feelings.
I know that in order for me to work through them, I must first honor and embrace all emotions.
They are a part of me.
Therefore they are meaningful and valid.
Pick a feeling that you’re afraid or ashamed of.
Feeling fear, anger, or sadness is okay as long as you don’t let it define you.
Embrace your emotions and remind yourself how valuable they are.
Don’t invalidate your feelings. Honor them.
Tap OUT..✌️
Tru2Day979
You will never get the truth out of a Narcissist.
The closest you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.
– Shannon L. Alder.
True me.. Tap-863..
You can’t skip chapters, that’s not how life works.
You have to read every line, meet every character.
You won’t enjoy all of it.
Hell, some chapters will make you cry for weeks.
You will read things you don’t want to read, you will have moments when you don’t want the pages to end.
But you have to keep going.
Stories keep the world revolving.
Live your story, don’t miss out.
Now this paragraph is for my close friends.
The question is; “Was i angry on Frank?”
Answer is: No, i laughed at his tiny mind in November-2019.
I was applying for PhD research scholar positions in Berlin. New city for me, Frank took me & few friends to an EXOTIC CAR MEET-UP, that too in a Dacia Duster. Not judging the car, any Dacia or VW is a good daily driver. But, I was laughing at the idea of going to an EXOTIC CAR MEET-UP in a DACIA DUSTER.😂
(No matter how much i praise a Tesla, i am a petrolhead by heart. I am a sucker for all AMG & BMW M-series cars, manual rear wheel drive please.)
Tap OUT..✌️
True me.. Tap-860..
Your body sheds your tired skin every twenty seven days.
You were not made to hold your past within you.
You were not made to carry it all on your back.
You physically let go of every bad thing that has ever touched you, of every pair of foreign hands that unbuttoned your shirt but never your demons; you let go of every regret, of every insecurity.
You are always gifted a clean slate.
Remember that your tongue is the strongest muscle in your body.
You were made to speak, so speak loudly and communicate honestly about how you feel.
Speak about what hurts you, about what has broken you.
Speak about your story, share it with the world.
Letting go does not mean you stop caring.
It means you stop trying to force others to.
Tap OUT..✌️
True me.. Tap-846..
HOW TO KNOW YOU’RE GROWING:
1. You commit to and practice observing yourself.
2. You notice a story you’re telling yourself.
3. You set a boundary you may not have set before.
4. You honour a commitment to yourself.
5. You take ownership and accountability when there’s something to own.
6. You can see another perspective outside of your own.
7. You see the pain of others in their reactivity without over personalizing.
8. You move away from changing others and move towards integrating the change you’d like to see for yourself.
GROWTH is often uncomfortable, messy, and full of feelings you weren’t EXPECTING. But it’s necessary.
Tap OUT..✌️
Sunday story time.. 03.
A high school teacher once said;
“Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”.
I took those words bit too seriously i guess.
Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an outrageous extrovert, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes:
Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my high school/university friends scratching their head over which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we share a hilariously mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for any serious COMMITMENT & I literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t even like her date idea & she dumped Ivan even before their first date ended. She tried twice to patch what fell apart in between us, meanwhile i was more focused with my part-time job & my studies because exams were nearby. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say i was the runner. There was a period of silent treatment. Once again DEMI told me she wants her bestfriend back. Next day was saturday, that evening it was snowing really bad which was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, DEMI is the only person who sits on my lap even without asking. I usually ask her for a head or back massage anytime i wish. We go on long drives, surfing, rock climbing & paragliding pretty often. We fight for last slice of pizza or last dorito chips. All weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some nearby islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual my response remains the same. I am not ready for dating experiments, because it’s usually 6-8 months to get in & then another next 6-8 months to come out, it’s a waste of whole year. And I don’t believe in second chances. But the truth is; we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, as punishment i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all 86 girls from engineering school/university. Our communication is flawless. It took us a long time to build the amazing equation what we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, that’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway:
Whatever struggle you are facing in your life,
make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself positivity.
When you are filled with anger or hate,
the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t even know it and the rest don’t care.
Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Tap..🖖
Sunday story time.. 03.
A high school teacher once said;
“Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”.
I took those words bit too seriously i guess.
Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes:
Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway:
Whatever struggle you are facing in your life,
make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love.
When you are filled with anger or hate,
the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care.
Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Tap OUT..🖖
True me.. Tap-836..
Life can be fulfilling at both 16 and also 60. 25 and 35.
Joy is timeless.
Learning how to make the most of where you are does not have an age cut-off or a deadline.
You will always be able to sit and wonder about things that could have gone differently.
But you can also trust:
you have not missed out on what was meant for you.
I know it’s hard to trust when so much is unknown,
so instead of trying to make sense of it all at once,
take it all color by color, tree by tree, scent by scent, take it one by one.
You don’t have to take it all in at once.
Take in the newness of it all one moment at a time without worrying about the moments to come.
Let that be enough.
Breathe deep and let this moment be enough.
Let this be a place where you find peace.
Remember the ground beneath your feet, you belong here.
No one has taken your place.
You are not too far from grace.
Your story might be unfolding differently than expected but that doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful.
Where you are meant to be, you will be in time, no matter your age or stage of life.
Life is fun. Let it be.
Let it flourish at it’s own pace.
Tap OUT..💪
True me.. Tap-810..
Each of us leads unique lives with experiences that nobody else will ever completely understand.
Your story holds so many valuable lessons that can help inspire, teach, and motivate someone else.
Should you choose to share it!?!
In life, I have heard so many different stories.
Just by listening, I learned so many different things.
I’m so thankful I found the courage to share my story as well and talk about what I’ve been through.
Not only has it helped me, but it has helped give perspective and strength to so many other people, my people to be precise.
I encourage you to do the same.
Share your story with someone who is worth your time.
You never know how one sentence of your life story could inspire someone to rewrite their own.
No matter what you have been through in life, good or bad, don’t take it for granted.
There are lessons in every moment of our lives.
Tap OUT..💪
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