HEAL YOURSELF.
FIND YOURSELF.
KNOW YOURSELF.
CORRECT YOURSELF.
RESPECT YOURSELF.
BE YOURSELF.
LOVE YOURSELF.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. But if you are from USA or UK, you should watch it. The title of the video is WHY IT’S HARDER TO EARN MORE THAN YOUR PARENTS.)
Dropped this in university group as well, lunch on me at Casanova 12.30PM sharp. Please don’t ask address hundred times, it’s opposite to NCP car park.
In this generation it is almost exceptional that we look after each other and stand up for each other.
There is competition and power struggles everywhere, but why?
We could achieve so much more together if we support, respect and appreciate each other.
I don’t compete with anyone, I am myself, I have different goals, norms and values, I am unique, just like you are, and for that we are not competitors but equals.
Jealousy, competition and grudging are therefore hugely misguided, it is impossible to compare yourself to another.
The only thing you can do is look at yourself, develop yourself, compete with yourself and become your own ideal image.
There is no room for jealousy, grudging and hatred, as this will always negatively affect your self development and self-image.
Focus on your own goals and work on yourself.
Respect that you will never be like others and they will never be like you.
Don’t change for anyone.
Change for yourself.
You are your own and only competition.
Tap OUT..💪
Set an example.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect,
even those who are rude to you,
not because they are nice,
but because you are.
– Marcandangel.
Acceptance helps to love yourself.
You might not love all aspects of yourself right now but you can learn to accept it.
Accept your flaws.
Accept the positives and negative aspects of your story.
Accept the parts of you that are deemed unacceptable by society.
Self acceptance is the starting point to attain self love.
DISCIPLINE IS ABOUT MAKING CHOICE AFTER CHOICE CONSISTENTLY THAT’S ALIGNED WITH OUR INTENTIONS.
IN ANY MOMENT, WE CAN MAKE A CHOICE THAT SUPPORTS AN INTENTION.
OR WE CAN MAKE A CHOICE THAT SUPPORTS AN OLD HABIT, A LACK OF INTENTION OR A FEAR.
ATTITUDE,
HAPPINESS,
OPTIMISM,
KINDNESS,
GIVING,
RESPECT,
GROWTH,
LOYALTY,
TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION,
WHATEVER CHOICE YOU MAKE, MAKES YOU.
CHOOSE WISELY.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. If you are watching from USA, watch it for investment tips. If you are watching from any other part of the world, watch it for some general knowledge on money. I am a big fan ot Kevin O’Leary. I saw him giving a 100 score to someone for the first time, that too to an Indian guy. My blood goes back to eastern part of India. Parents are next to god in our culture. And nothing comes above family values & money management skills.)
Tap OUT..✌️
DISCIPLINE IS ABOUT MAKING CHOICE AFTER CHOICE CONSISTENTLY THAT’S ALIGNED WITH OUR INTENTIONS.
IN ANY MOMENT, WE CAN MAKE A CHOICE THAT SUPPORTS AN INTENTION.
OR WE CAN MAKE A CHOICE THAT SUPPORTS AN OLD HABIT, A LACK OF INTENTION OR A FEAR.
ATTITUDE,
HAPPINESS,
OPTIMISM,
KINDNESS,
GIVING,
RESPECT,
GROWTH,
LOYALTY,
TRUTHFUL COMMUNICATION,
WHATEVER CHOICE YOU MAKE, MAKES YOU.
CHOOSE WISELY.
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. If you are watching from USA, watch it for investment tips. If you are watching from any other part of the world, watch it for some general knowledge on money. I am a big fan ot Kevin O’Leary. I saw him giving a 100 score to someone for the first time, that too to an Indian guy. My blood goes back to eastern part of India. Parents are next to god in our culture. And nothing comes above family values & money management skills.)
Tap OUT..✌️
A high school teacher once said;
“Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”.
I took those words bit too seriously i guess.
Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an outrageous extrovert, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes:
Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my high school/university friends scratching their head over which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we share a hilariously mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for any serious COMMITMENT & I literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t even like her date idea & she dumped Ivan even before their first date ended. She tried twice to patch what fell apart in between us, meanwhile i was more focused with my part-time job & my studies because exams were nearby. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say i was the runner. There was a period of silent treatment. Once again DEMI told me she wants her bestfriend back. Next day was saturday, that evening it was snowing really bad which was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, DEMI is the only person who sits on my lap even without asking. I usually ask her for a head or back massage anytime i wish. We go on long drives, surfing, rock climbing & paragliding pretty often. We fight for last slice of pizza or last dorito chips. All weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some nearby islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual my response remains the same. I am not ready for dating experiments, because it’s usually 6-8 months to get in & then another next 6-8 months to come out, it’s a waste of whole year. And I don’t believe in second chances. But the truth is; we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, as punishment i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all 86 girls from engineering school/university. Our communication is flawless. It took us a long time to build the amazing equation what we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, that’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway:
Whatever struggle you are facing in your life,
make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself positivity.
When you are filled with anger or hate,
the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t even know it and the rest don’t care.
Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Tap..🖖
A high school teacher once said;
“Being close & open to your opposite sex is important, you become more transparent, there’s no insecurities which makes you more confident. Later that also helps you build better relationship/friendships”.
I took those words bit too seriously i guess.
Even though my name is bit spoiled with university girls, I haven’t dated many in my almost close to 30 life. Actually i never missed dating someone. Being an extrovert & a LEO, I always had/have options to choose with whom i want to hangout/party/travel/workout/get cozy/watch Netflix/movie night/go hiking or shopping.
Now back to the story/confession/realisation, here it goes:
Way back when I was getting over a breakup, I used to spend most of my night filled with anger & a boyish temper. I didn’t realize it back then, I had so much to achieve in my life & such negative feelings weren’t helping. I wondered why she was able to get over faster than I was. Later I realised, it’s because I was spending so much time hating that situation rather than getting over it.
Anyone from my university friends scratching their head which breakup i am talking about; it’s my bestfriend DEMI. We are bestfriends since 7th century, but we have a mad crazy past. We dated for a very short period of time, I wasn’t ready for a COMMITMENT & i literally thought we were just fooling around. Fault was mine. I said YES to 4 girls for prom night & 2 out of those 4 were our seniors. I was expecting DEMI will be cool with it. To fight back & make me jealous, DEMI went on a date with one of my friends named Ivan. Being a loyal bro, Ivan asked my permission whether he is allowed to take DEMI out for a full monty brunch. DEMI didn’t like her date. She wanted to patch what fell apart in between us, but i was more focused with my studies & part-time job. I didn’t care much because i am the kinda guy who’s happy when my bank account grows, my life is more about my growth rather than allowing someone to mess with my piece of peace. Let’s say, I am a happy man because i am married to my bank account.
It became a runner/chaser situation for a week. Sad to say, i was the runner. One saturday evening it was snowing really bad. It was a lightbulb moment for me, I invited DEMI to try my homemade sourdough pizza. It wasn’t tasty like store-bought pizza, but we both ate it with pin drop silence. That was my first try with sourdough fermentation. Next day DEMI came to my apartment early morning, we followed another recipe from some website & we baked that pizza perfectly. We both were upset about each other’s behaviour. An amazing conversation after a good pizza helped us heal. We both got the closure & clarity we needed.
Coming back to this current day called TODAY, the only person who still sits on my lap is DEMI. I can ask her for a head & back massage anytime i want. We go on long drives. It’s a weddings/royal dinner invitations/travelling to some islands during weekends, we are each other’s +1 partner. If weather is not ok, we make it better by cuddling/spooning each other. 3-4 times she suggested whether we can date again! And as usual, I am not ready for dating experiments. But we already have an amazing equation, i don’t want to destroy that by allowing some romantic melodrama. We have a verbal agreement, there’s a sweet punishment if we miss each other’s phonecall or facetime. Last time i missed DEMI’s call when i was attending a university seminar, i had to send a butt naked snapchat streak to all my 186 friends as punishment. Our communication is flawless. The truth is, it took us a long time to build the amazing equation we share & i am not strong enough to hurt her. If i know someone who is TRUTHFUL & CONSISTENT so far in my life, it’s DEMI. Now there’s nothing except RESPECT & ADMIRATION towards each other.
Takeaway:
Whatever struggle you are facing in your life,
make sure you are not poisoning yourself with anger when you could be giving yourself love.
When you are filled with anger or hate,
the only person that suffers is you because most of the people you hate don’t know it and the rest don’t care.
Fill yourself with SELF-LOVE & SUCCESS before you are in search of LOVE.
Tap OUT..🖖
FIVE GENTLE REMINDERS:
1. The kindest people aren’t born that way, they are made. They are the souls that have experienced so much at the hands of life, they are the ones who have dug themselves out of the dark, who have fought to turn every loss into a lesson. The KINDEST people do not just exist, they choose to soften where circumstance has tried to harden them, they choose to believe in goodness, because they have seen firsthand why COMPASSION is so necessary. They have seen firsthand why TENDERNESS is so important in this world.
2. Surround yourself with people who are doing the work to HEAL themselves. Surround yourself with those who want to talk to you about IDEAS rather than other human beings. Surround yourself with people who LOVE and RESPECT themselves, people who are GENTLE and KIND and who ENCOURAGE CONNECTION. Surround yourself with people who genuinely show up in your life, people who don’t just want attention, or praise, or validation from you. Surround yourself with those who want to GROW with you. These people will change your life.
3. Being understood fosters a different kind of INTIMACY that is untouchable. The rarest, most profound kind of connection you are going to experience will not be with the person who instantly gratifies you, but rather, with the kind of human being who sees you clearly. Ask yourself who makes you feel the most you? Who sees you in ways you don’t see yourself? Who pours calm and ease into the heart of you? Those people who came to mind are rare and beautiful gifts. Never take them for granted.
4. Do not just be THANKFUL for the things you deem positive in life. Be thankful for the EMOTIONS you also deem negative, because it is within the darkness that we grow to APPRECIATE the light. The hardest things in life are building you, and reminding you of your capacity to overcome. At the end of the day, nothing you have experienced thus far has defeated you. There is POWER in reminding yourself of that. You are capable of braving the storms, that is what they are there to teach you.
5. Please don’t ever forget that so many human beings you come into contact with are all trying to heal themselves from the things they often do not discuss. Always choose to be KIND. Always choose GRACE.
Tap OUT..✌️
Trust, Loyalty, Respect.
You fuck up 1, you lose all 3.
(Not my words).
(This video got nothing to do with the post above. So, at the end these privacy evading punters did the same as predicted by all news media outlets. Now that nobody is ready to believe Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg just rebranded it to something else. The amount of backlash Facebook received after 2 back to back recent scandals wasn’t enough. Whatever this Meta bullshit coming is gonna be a disastrous stupid failure.)
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